Which is the parenting style that is strict and demanding but also responsive to the needs and feelings of the child?
This is the "because I told you so" parent who is likely to degrade a child and ignore the child’s point of view. Show
Authoritarian parenting is extremely strict. Parents expect kids to follow the rules with no discussion or compromising. Parents use this approach for many reasons. Many choose this style because of their nationality, culture or ethical backgrounds dictate it. Also, it may be the way they were raised and don’t know any other way. Finally, they believe ruling with an iron fist is the best way to keep kids in line and under control. This parenting style involves:
This type of parenting doesn’t work. Boundaries and expectations are healthy and recommended, but need to be balanced with love, warmth and respect for the child. The negative side effects to this type of parenting include:
This style is low in parental responsiveness and high in parental demandingness. Authoritarian parents are not very emotional or affectionate, and critical of their children if they fail to meet their expectations. Rules should always be used to conduct behavior that is desired. When a child breaks a rule, it should be an opportunity to teach a life lesson and not be punished because they didn’t follow the rules. Unfortunately, strong punishment leads to more misbehavior, rebellion and results in constant power struggles. This type of parenting does not support positive parenting. In fact, research shows that children with authoritarian parents perform more poorly than kids with permissive parents. For a better parenting option, learn more about the authoritative type parenting style that allows children to be independent thinkers, self-regulate their emotions and are successful, happy and successful. Authoritative parents show high levels of warmth andcontrol. For more information on each parenting style, click on one of the styles below:
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There’s no manual for parenting — something you probably realized when you brought your little one home. There’s no single “right” way to parent. How you parent will depend on how you were raised, how you see others parenting, and even, to some extent, your cultural background. Some of the more widely recognized parenting styles are:
If you have a newborn at home (or one on the way!) and want to learn about which parenting style might be right for you — or if you have an older child and wonder if your current methods might be worth rethinking — read on to learn more about the different types of parenting. Many child development specialists consider this the most reasonable and effective form of parenting. Consider yourself an authoritative parent if you:
Pros and cons of authoritative parentingProsAs an authoritative parent, you create a loving and supportive environment for your children. As a result, your children:
ConsWhile most experts agree that authoritative parenting produces the healthiest outcomes for kids, it requires a lot of patience and effort to make sure everyone is being heard. In addition, rules sometimes have to be adjusted, and that can be hard for kids — and parents! Examples of authoritative parenting
Authoritarian parents aren’t about winning any popularity contests — which is a good thing, since popularity matters very little when it comes to making the right choices. (You know the old adage — what’s right isn’t always popular, and what’s popular isn’t always right.) These parents focus on keeping the troops — err, kids — in line so they can be their best selves. When you’re an authoritarian parent, you:
Pros and cons of authoritarian parentingProsMany people agree that firm parenting is good parenting. When your child knows their boundaries, they may be better able to focus on their achievements. ConsAuthoritative parenting has its share of negatives. According to 2012 research out of the University of New Hampshire, the children of authoritarian parents:
Other research shows that children of authoritarian parents are more depressed than other kids and are more likely to have poorer grades. Keep in mind that most kids rebel at some point, and this may happen in any parenting environment — including an authoritarian one. This can lead to a less-than-ideal parent/child relationship. Examples of authoritarian parentingIf you’re an authoritarian parent, it’s your way or the highway.
Ever see “Mommie Dearest”? Well, think the opposite. Attachment parenting is a child-centric form of parenting in which you create a safe, secure environment for your child (forget the hysterical rants about wire hangers!).
Pros and cons of attachment parentingProsWhile it may seem counterintuitive, a study published in 2010 in APAPsychNET reports that children exposed to attachment parenting are:
ConsAttachment parenting can become all consuming. You may have to miss a lot of Wine Down Wednesdays with the girls, get used to having no privacy (or sex), and just generally have little time to or for yourself. On a more serious note, co-sleeping with an infant can increase risk of sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS) and is not recommended. Examples of attachment parenting
Permissive parents are loving and warm. They deviate from traditional parenting techniques in that it’s the children who call the shots — not the other way around. If you’re a permissive parent, you:
Pros and cons of permissive parentingProsPermissive parents are generally loving and nurturing. Although this isn’t a parenting style most experts encourage, children raised without limits often praise their upbringing and credit it with developing them into independent, decision-making adults. ConsKids can get into a heap of trouble — that’s what kids do. Whether they get into more trouble in a permissive parenting environment depends on the individual.
Examples of permissive parentingThere are two main tenets to permissive parenting: You don’t have — or even want — control. And your kids have complete freedom to make mistakes — and learn from those mistakes. Arguably, these lessons may “stick” better than if you simply dictate rules.
Like chickens that aren’t confined to a cage, the children of free-range parents are given room to roam and take risks, but with parental guidance (notice we didn’t say full-on parental supervision). It’s not “anything goes” with free-range parents (that’s closer to permissive parenting). Free-range parents loosen the reins, but before they do they give their kids rules and consequences when they aren’t followed. Free-range parents give their kids:
Pros and cons of free-range parentingProsGiving kids control and responsibility helps them grow up to be:
Cons
Examples of free-range parenting
Know someone who orchestrates every aspect of their kid’s life, from what friends they have to what food they eat to what they do in their free time? Then you know a concerned, conscientious parent. But society may also label them a helicopter parent. Helicopter parents:
Keep in mind that these parents are acting out of love and concern. They absolutely want what’s best for their kids and don’t want their precious child’s mistakes to affect their future. Pros and cons of helicopter parentingProsWhile many experts caution against helicopter parenting — a parenting style that some argue can make kids feel stifled and dependent — there’s in fact research that points to an upside.
ConsThere’s also a downside. According to psychologists at Indiana University, kids who have helicopter parents are more likely than others to:
Examples of helicopter parenting
What’s been labeled as uninvolved or neglectful parenting is a style that is often outside the parent’s control. If you’re a single parent working two jobs to make ends meet, for example, necessity may dictate a tough reality — that is, that you feel more disconnect with your kids. Uninvolved parents may not be at their kids’ T-ball games. They may not have met their child’s teacher or visited their child’s school. It’s possible they don’t know their child’s favorite color, food, or best friend. These children often feel unloved, unappreciated, and unseen. Neglectful parents:
Research from 2009 shows that parents who recall physical abuse in their own childhoods are 5 times more likely to be physically abusive parents and 1.4 times more likely to be neglectful parents. Again, uninvolved parenting isn’t typically a conscious choice. These parents often have circumstances preventing them from forming a bond with their child. Pros and cons of uninvolved parentingProsThere are no documented upsides to this style, though children are resilient and may become more self-sufficient out of necessity. Overall, the kids of uninvolved/neglectful parents have some of the worst outcomes when compared to kids of other parenting styles. ConsResearch published in 2019 in the Journal of Child and Family Studies found children of neglectful parents often:
Examples of uninvolved parenting
There are so many parenting styles — basically, there are as many styles as there are parents. Chances are you won’t fit into one category, and that’s okay. Your child is unique in ways that you know best, so your parenting will be unique, too. Research suggests that your children will have the healthiest outcomes if you walk the thin line between being nurturing but not too controlling. But at the end of the day, we are all making calculated decisions — or flying by the seat of our pants, as we all do at times — out of love for our little ones. If you have parenting questions, talk to your child’s pediatrician. If they can’t help you, they can refer you to a mental health counselor who can. What kind of parenting style if the parent is strict?Authoritarian parenting is characterized by very high expectations for children with a lack of feedback and responsiveness from the parent. Authoritarian parents punish mistakes harshly, but offer little explanation for their rules and punishments.
What parenting style is demanding and responsive?Authoritative parents are both demanding and responsive. "They monitor and impart clear standards for their children's conduct. They are assertive, but not intrusive and restrictive.
What are the 4 types of parenting styles?Psychologists tend to focus on the four key parenting styles:. Authoritarian.. Authoritative.. Permissive.. Uninvolved/neglectful.. Which parenting style is demanding and controlling while being accepting and responsive?Authoritative Parenting
Authoritative parents are high on control and demandingness, and also high on responsiveness and warmth. They set clear standards for their children but accept “a reciprocal responsibility to be as responsive as possible to their children's reasonable demands and points of views” [3, p. 46].
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