I want my wife to wear see through top forum năm 2024

My wife is 41 and I'm 44, married 15 years. She's a size 8. She (and I) are a few pounds overweight but by no means fat, no cellulite, no wrinkles or sagging to speak of. In fact, I have to say that my wife is pretty hot looking - she isn't skinny but she has a great shape, great legs, a fantastic butt, great chest and shoulders, and a lovely face; hse looks great in a bikini. She's a MILF! Here's the problem: My wife has three kinds of clothes: 1. frumpy, mono-color, loose-fitting saggy thick cotton exercise clothes; 2. pleasant, bland, mono-color, wrinkled, office clothes; and 3. dresses, pant suits and other clothes that make her look post-menopausal - exactly like her 70 year old mother. Over the years we've joked and fought about her poor fashion sense - here's an example: "honey what do you think of this new swimsuit I bought?" Me: "Oh it's great, not revealing at all and effectively removes every curve on your body." Her: "I like the pattern." Me: "It makes you look 60 years old - I didn't know they even made suits like that anymore." Her: "F.U., you just want me to look like a teenager" Me: "No, I'd like you to look your age or somewhat younger; not like a child. Why would you rather look 55 than 35?" I've tried to find a personal shopping assistant to take her to buy clothes but havent been able to find one. I'd love to get her on that Bravo show where they teach a real person how to dress. Please - how do I help my beautiful sexy wife to dress beautiful and sexy and age-appropriate?

Anonymous

http://www.bethatmom.com/

And put your money where your mouth is.

Anonymous

It sounds like you have already told her and she doesn't appreciate it.

Do you think she is trying to hide her body? I know for years, I purposefully hid my curves as I got too much unwelcome attention. Sure, its flattering if you are in a bar. It's disturbing when you are at work and old mean are learing at you in a turtleneck.

If you think she would actually like to look better but doesn't know how, have you offered to go shopping with her? A personal assistant would make me uncomfortable. But maybe if you just went with her and highly praised the better outfits (instead of insulting her choices), it would help. Hey - watch a few of those Bravo shows yourself so you can help her pick out a few things (there is a book also, you could do a quick read).

Anonymous

You can DVR the show "What not to wear" and then sit down one night and watch it togehter.

Someone also recently posted a link for another personal image consultant: http://www.mysignaturelook.com/

Purchase the service for her - and then make it easy for her to do. Get a sitter for the kids, do the grocery shoping whatever it takes. Also, it is not a one shot thing. Let your wife take the steps slowly and over time. She may need to do a few session for different seasons and a refresher - but it is an investment in the long term.

Anonymous

Maybe if you stopped being an ass. If my DH said that to me, in the wording you provided, I'd tell him to F-off and I wouldn't want to listen to what he was trying to say, even if he had a good point. Have you ever gone shopping with her, or do you just criticize what she buys? If you are just commenting on what she has already bought, then she probably sees it as a criticism of her personally.

Also keep in mind that it is a thousand times easier to dress a man than it is a woman. There can be whole seasons that go by where I haven't seen anything I'd want to wear. And if you have curves, even the good kind, it can be even harder since much of the clothing is designed for size 0s. Take the current mumu dress trend (or whatever you call those things with too much fabric and no shape). If you don't wear a size 2 or less, they make you look bigger than you are, or pregnant. If she's not a big shopper, which I'm guessing she isn't, then she probably doesn't want to deal with the hassle of going to a half-dozen stores to find the best pair of pants; she just picks up the first OK ones she finds.

Talk to her about what you together can do. In a nice way. Would you going shopping with her help? Is she trying to be budget conscious and that's making it more difficult to find nice things? Would she like a personal shopper to help navigate the variety of stores and to cull the wheat from the shaft?

But you may also have to realize that this is the woman you married. If she once was fashion conscious then that's your starting off point for the conversation. If she's always been this way, then you're just going to have to deal with it.

Anonymous

Her reply suggests that she is very comfortable with the way she looks. I would offer a compromise by trying to get her to sex it up for special events. Continue to focus on how attractive she is to you and how you love to see the envy in other men's eyes when you two go out.

Anonymous

Actually, I think her reply suggests that she has no confidence.

How about buying her a few things yourself that you pick out? Maybe get some help (such as That Mom Inc., mentioned above). Or just go through like the Athleta catalog and get her a couple of things that you think you would like that aren't completely out of her comfort range?

Also, get her a spa day, including a mani & pedi, which will make her feel just a little more fabulous.

Anonymous

Go out shopping and buy her some items you would like to see her wear.

Anonymous

No, no and more no.

OP, I was your wife (well, not really, but you know what I mean). For YEARS my DH said I dressed too old for my age, etc. He was right but I never wanted to hear it. Then, once I had kids, forget it. I never bought anything because I didn't know what size I would eventually wear. It took me really getting to the point of feeling low and some strong encouragement from a friend before I hired a personal shopper. She has to want to do it. You can encourage, you can say things like, "Oh, honey, I just got this extra bonus and I was thinking you have been working so hard lately, why don't you go spend X at [fill in whatever expensive store she secretly loves but thinks is a waste of money]." Maybe she'll have fun and start to get into it. It has to come from within her, though. I think hiring a personal shopper for her before she's ready OR buying her things to wear thats he doesn't think are her (even if they would be if she were open to them) will backfire. Trust me. My DH tried to get me to wear something he found sexy one night (not a slinky negligee, just an outfit), and we ended up with me crying and a two-hour discussion of the objectification of women. The new made-over me would put it on, but the change had to come from within.

Anonymous

I want to thank you all for the suggestions - I did not think there would be a simple answer. Most of all I feel bad for my wife because she really does not know how to dress and when we go, for example, to a fancy cocktail party, I know she feels embarrassed once we get there by her poor choices, but she wont take suggestions from me. As for being an ass, of course my dialogue above was meant to be humorous - no a verbatim transcript. I didnt post on here to be treated like a jerk, but to get reasonable help from my wife's peers.

Anonymous

How much does someone like the Be That Mom consultant cost? I can't dress myself, hate to shop, and would love to have someone pull stuff together for me. How much, realistically, would something like that cost?

Anonymous

OP,

Can you enlist the help of one of her girlfriends who can maybe take her shopping and offer advice? I do agree with others though that this is something that she needs to want to do.

Anonymous

What is a MILF? (See OP's original post.)

Anonymous

I don't think this DH is a jerk at all. I would want my husband to tell me if I was blind to a problem the rest of the world can see. I agree that enlisting some women to talk to her about it in a gentle, supportive way may help. Find out what her issues are (wanting to hide her body, wanting to be in comfy clothes all the time, feeling too cheap to spend money on herself...)

I don't have much fashion sense and do NOT enjoy spending money on clothes for myself (no problem spending it on my children or my husband or my house). So I don't shop in stores for myself ever... well, maybe once a year to get 1-2 specific things, like socks. But I do like looking at catalogs, particularly ones that show complete outfits. If the catalog says "XYZ is the perfect ensemble for the office" then I believe them and order it.